Former Bachelor in Paradise contestant Jade Roper shares her experience of “getting over a miscarriage.”
“I am struggling with what to write here as I come to terms with a miscarriage,” she wrote. “It felt like all my dreams were coming true, welcoming another baby into our lives, loving and completing our family. While our hearts are completely broken and we grapple with the deep and complex grief of loss, we were fortunate to be touched by his soul for a brief time. I’ve changed forever.”
Roper and her husband, Tanner Tolbert, met when they competed on Bachelor in Paradise in 2015. The couple got engaged at the end of the season and married in 2016, just months after appearing on the ABC reality show. They have three children together: daughter Emerson, 5, and sons Brooks, 3, and Reed, 2.
The former TV personality wrote of her loss: “I’m currently going through what is called a missed miscarriage. While his heart has stopped and he has stopped growing (it has been for a while), my body has not yet released the pregnancy.” . I hope to achieve this naturally and trust in the timing and in my body under the care of my doctor.”
Waiting to see if a woman’s body can handle the missed miscarriage naturally is a typical first step in treatment unless an infection is present, the study says Mayo Clinic. If the body doesn’t expel the fetus naturally, medication or minor surgery can be used to ensure that no placenta or tissue is left in the woman’s uterus.
Roper ended her post with a message about the physical and emotional toll the process — also known as a silent miscarriage — has taken on her.
“I wore him with so much pride and cherish every moment that is left with a part of him, but it was also just as challenging and devastating. As I hold my belly here, our sweet baby’s body rests in my belly as his soul soars. We love you with all our hearts, baby beau. ❤️”
Other members of the Bachelor universe reacted to Roper’s news in the comments section.
Catherine Giudici, winner of season 17 of The Bachelor, wrote: “Oh Jade, this is so heartbreaking. I hope you feel this community hugging you.”
“All the love to you. I’m proud of you Jade. “You honor your baby and your body with such integrity and compassion,” said Sarah Herron, who has appeared on multiple seasons of Bachelor in Paradise. “He is loved so much and will never be forgotten. … his legacy will forever leave a mark on your family. “
And Trista Sutter, star of season one of The Bachelorette, commented: “Oh Jade. I am incredibly sorry that you, Tanner, and the children have suffered this loss. You are such a symbol of grace and strength. I send so much love.”