A SIMPLY PERSON claims years of grief have left her BOLD – and now cruel people on Tinder REJECT her when she tells them before the date.
Lynn Sinclair was shocked when many men refused to chat with her online after sharing that she suffered from hair loss.
The 47-year-old, who lives in Stockton on Tees, Durham, wanted to be open with potential love interests about her condition – but her honesty prompted suitors to end any prospects of a relationship.
The mother-of-one was diagnosed with autoimmune hair loss in October after a bald patch suddenly appeared one afternoon on the top of her head.
In the weeks since her diagnosis, bald patches continued to appear on Lynn’s head which the single admitted was ‘devastating’.
She blamed the bad breakup which she believes affected her hair follicles, which were damaged after ‘years of really bad relationships’.
However, this didn’t stop the mother from continuing to look for love on dating apps including Tinder, Hinge and Facebook Dating – but guys were less than friendly with her hair loss.
Lynn, who has worked as a food truck driver for the past 23 years, said the negative reactions from online matches about her hair loss have made her want to ‘swear off men’ for the rest of her life.
“I usually lose my hair pretty quickly, like instantly. I just wanted to get rid of it and be honest,” Lynn said.
“I like to be straightforward and honest with people. My hair is getting thinner and thinner.
“They might notice so I thought I would tell people and I expected people to say ‘yeah, it’s okay’ but it’s a very different reaction.
“As soon as I tell them, they say ‘okay, I hope you find someone’ and that’s the end of the conversation.
“Someone I’ve been talking to for a few days and we get along really well so I thought I’d mention it and that’s it.
“These days it’s all about looks, not personality.
“I thought people would say ‘you’re still friends’, ‘just friends’.
“I don’t really bother watching them now. I just thought those pictures weren’t exactly me anymore so I felt like I was lying anyway.
“I don’t want them to say I cheated on them. I hate someone doing that to me. I really just thought they would turn around and say ‘it’s okay, I like you for who you are’.”
Lynn first noticed a small bald patch on her head in October but said she didn’t mind the slight change in her appearance.
A week later, my hair was down, I took a photo and noticed that I had a rather large bald patch on the top of my head, the size of a tennis ball.
However, just a week later, the patch had grown to the size of a tennis ball – prompting the mother to seek medical advice.
“About six weeks ago, I was driving to work and noticed my head was very itchy,” Lynn said.
“I think I have nits? When I got home I saw a small bald patch and thought it was just the lighting and didn’t really pay attention to it anymore.
“A week later, my hair fell out, I took a photo and noticed there was a fairly large bald patch on the top of my head, about the size of a tennis ball.
“I went to the doctor the next day, did some blood tests and all was fine and they said I should see a skin specialist and it was definitely alopecia.
“About a week ago I thought my hair was growing back but then I noticed a few more bald patches but apparently that’s what happens with alopecia.
“A week ago there were no bald patches at all, it really just appeared naturally.
“I was completely devastated. I called my sister and sobbed.
“There’s nothing you can do. They don’t know if it will grow back or if I will be completely bald.
“I told myself that if I went completely bald it would happen and I would consider getting a wig.
“Even though it has been about six weeks, the progression of the disease is scary.
“I’m trying to stay positive but I’m worried about the future. I’ve read stories about people losing all their hair in two weeks.”
Lynn believes her hair loss is the result of years of ‘bad relationships’, which have affected her hair follicles.
However, the painful breakup did not stop the mother from trying love again after joining many dating apps 4 months ago.
“I went through a terrible breakup about six months ago and thought it had affected my hair follicles,” Lynn says.
“I think it’s been really bad relationships over the years and the most recent one has left me in a tailspin.
“I joined dating apps because I was looking for a long-term relationship.
“But I got rejected three times in a row after telling men I had hair loss – but it wasn’t a big deal.
“I think they didn’t know about hair loss or thought I would go completely bald and they didn’t want a bald girlfriend.
“I just thought how can I date now? I can’t.
“It affects my confidence, I’m trying not to let that happen but of course it does.
“It makes me want to give up on men! I don’t need to stress about dating. I’ve put dating aside for now.
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“These dating sites are full of idiots anyway – for them to understand this situation is a bit too much.
“Hopefully somewhere there will be someone who understands that.”