A bride gets into a heated argument with her fiancé after giving his mother an expensive ultimatum.
The woman said she demanded her mother-in-law buy her a new wedding dress after she was caught secretly trying on her $3,000 white dress.
The bride wrote a long post Reddit She revealed that she had previously refused her fiancé’s mother money in return for trying on the dress before the wedding.
However, her mother-in-law was so determined that she tried it on while she thought she was at work.
The bride said her family believes she is jeopardizing her marriage by now threatening to share photos of her fiancé’s mother wearing the dress.
She wrote: “My FMIL [future mother-in-law] They kept urging me to try it on, but I firmly refused.
“I finally listed it after she offered me $100 to try it on.
“Your reasons for being so persistent? She says it’s because of her “love” of wedding dresses and her obsession with them.
“Yesterday I came home early from work and found my fiancé at home.
“When he saw me he freaked out and tried to stop me from going to my room while he tried to text someone on his phone.
“I opened the door and was shocked to see his mother standing in my dress. I immediately took out my phone and took a photo of her in it.
“She and my fiancée freaked out when I told her she had to pay for a new dress for me in three days or I would show the photo to the whole family.”
The bride said her mother-in-law left the house in tears while her fiancé accused her of overreacting.
She continued: “I refused to listen to him because in my opinion the dress should only be worn by the bride and only the bride.
“Honestly I felt disgust when I looked at the dress again, I don’t want it anymore.
“And that’s why I think it’s fair that she pays me after ruining it for me.
“He shouted at me and told me to wake up and stop treating his mother like she was an enemy.
“We had an argument after he failed to get me to back down and he has been living with his mother ever since.”
The woman said she worked hard to save the $3,000 she spent on the dress, but now she can’t look at it without feeling terrible.
She added: “People in my family think I would escalate things and jeopardize my relationship, not just with FMIL [future mother-in-law] but also my fiancé. AITA [Am I the a**hole?]
Commenters assured the bride that her reaction was valid, but also advised her to reconsider going ahead with the wedding.
One person wrote: “NTA [not the a**hole]but are you sure you want to marry this guy?
“He stood guard outside your bedroom so his mother could try on your wedding dress.
“Do you think he’ll ever stand up for you against her?”
Another said: “NTA [not the a***hole] but honestly don’t ask for money.
“He stood guard while his mother tried on your dress. Do you really want to stay stuck in a relationship like that?
“Show the photo to everyone, cancel the wedding and dump him. You deserve better.”
A third added: “NTA [not the a**hole]. But your problem is not your MIL [mother-in-law]it’s your fiancé.
“He knew your point of view. He let his mother try on your dress. He tried to hide it from you.
“He yelled at you. He tried to blame you. You have to postpone everything until this is sorted out.
“Do you want to be number 2 for the rest of your married life?” Because that’s exactly what you are now. Your fiancé’s mom is #1. You are #2. If that.
“And by the way, it’s really scary for your fiancé to see his mother in your wedding dress. The dress that his sexual partner will wear. Eeww.”
A fourth agreed: “Throw away the dress and the man.” Both are tainted. NTA [not the a**hole].”
Another wrote: “NTA [not the a**hole]. Get your money and then break up with your fiancé. It won’t end well.
“He has shown what he puts his loyalty to. I’m sorry you’re going through this.”