Rumors have been circulating that Kim Kardashian is “jealous” of her daughter’s relationship with Kayne West’s new wife, Bianca Censori.
Bianca and North West, 10, have apparently formed a close relationship. They were recently spotted holding hands at Kayne’s 46th birthday party and chatting happily on a trip to Japan.
While North is clearly a fan of her new stepmom, a source has told Star Magazine that Kim is not.
“It gets under Kim’s skin,” they revealed.
Breakups are never easy, especially when children are involved.
According to Natalie Costa, 40, child confidence and parenting coach and founder of the London-based organization power thoughtsthe feelings of jealousy Kim feels are common among separated parents.
“While you obviously want your child to be happy, safe and comfortable with their new stepparents, it’s also normal to feel jealousy,” Natalie told The US Sun.
“Jealousy arises from a space of fear and concern that something is being taken away from us. It comes from a protective space — a desire to protect what’s important to you,” she added.
Kim, 42, who co-parents her three children with Kayne, has previously opened up about her struggles with him since their divorce and said co-parenting is “fucking hard”.
A source close to the Skims founder has revealed that his marriage to Australian model Bianca has “put another spanner in the works”.
A source previously pointed out: “This woman [Bianca] did things to look like Kim,” which may explain Kim’s concern and jealousy at Bianca North getting close.
“Feeling jealous isn’t a bad thing,” Natalie said.
“What’s important is how we react in these situations instead of getting carried away by our feelings.”
According to Natalie, this means Kim has to keep her feelings to herself and not project them onto North or her other three children with Kayne: Saint, Chicago, and Psalm.
“We don’t want to put our children in the position of how we feel about the situation.
“This can create guilt or anxiety in our children if they feel like they can’t enjoy their stepparent’s company,” she warned.
“We need to allow those feelings within us and have the support to process them, but without extending this to our children.”
Kim doesn’t lack support within her family, so dealing with her feelings away from her kids shouldn’t be a problem, but as Natalie points out, it’s not always easy.
“Breakups aren’t easy to deal with,” she said.
“There are many elements to get used to, but it’s important to notice and acknowledge how you’re feeling rather than trying to suppress or deny your feelings.”
“Having compassion for the way you’re feeling can help you process it in a healthy way.”
Co-parenting ideally means putting your children’s feelings first, and it seems Kim is doing just that.
But she may feel like her bond with her children, especially North, is becoming strained, which many separated parents can feel.
However, that does not mean that their children appreciate or love them any less.
“You will always be her parent, and no one can replace that,” Natalie explained.
“Try to look at the positive aspects of the situation — that your child has another adult in their life with whom they have a positive relationship, as opposed to a negative one that would be much more difficult to deal with.”
One element of co-parenting that many parents struggle with is letting go of control when their child is with the other parent, which Kim no doubt finds difficult as well.
“We cannot control all aspects of the situation,” Natalie stressed.
“But we can focus on how we react, what thoughts we pay attention to and what we say and do.”
“Kim should focus on what she has control over, not what she has no control over,” she suggested.
“If she’s uncomfortable about something, it’s important to have a conversation in a collaborative space.
“The main focus is on the well-being of their children,” said the parenting expert.
“How can we all be on the same team to complete this challenge instead of being on opposing teams?”
Natalie also advises Kim to take it easy on herself.
She said: “Breakups and adjusting to life after are not easy.
“Kim needs to take time to settle in and work through these challenges. It’s really important that she can confide in her family and friends.”