Sex life record the development of a person’s sexual history. This week: Solomon, 31, from Houston.
I’m in sixth grade, live in South Africa, and I’m on the bus back from a football game. There were only three of us left on the bus. I was never startled at the time – or even actually heard of masturbation – but other people started telling me about it, that it was supposed to feel great. They dared me to do it, and I was the new kid at school and both were popular kids and I guess I just wanted to fit in? So I started doing it. I pulled out my cock and it was just me and two other boys – I did it for maybe 10 seconds and nothing happened, it just felt weird. We all had a good laugh and left.
I got home that night and was still curious about it so I actually tried it, and I was able to come at that point. This was my first time coming and it was like an out of body experience. It’s so good but it just feels therefore freak.
I didn’t lose my virginity until my senior year of college, but I did a lot of other things before that. All my really close friends had sex before college, and it was one of my goals to try to stay virgins when I got into college. I took a while. Maybe because I tried too hard with it. Or a combination of that and I wasn’t very comfortable — kind of uncomfortable with relationships and sex at the time. Very wet behind the ear. I am definitely a late bloomer.
When I finally lost my virginity, it felt like an accomplishment, something I’m happy to do. I remember I was so drawn to the girl that I ended up losing my virginity and she was definitely just looking for some normalcy. We worked together at the university gym and we were so friendly and we met one night at a party and then it happened and then I wanted to go out with her and dating and lots of other things and she just said, “Dude, I don’t want to do all that. “I was so excited and wanted to do it again because it felt so great.
Now I’m in a state where I want to be more normal about the types of people I’m meeting. I got out of a four-year relationship during the pandemic and then I moved to a few different cities before going to Houston. I pretty much just live my life on the road — trying to put pieces of my life together, I guess. There was some crazy stuff going on with my family so when I got to Houston I had time to go to therapy and really try to get to know myself better, reflect and heal. I think I’m finally ready to start dating again and I want to take the casual approach of starting something serious. I haven’t seriously dated anyone since my last relationship; I’ve been close a few times. The more I see different women, the more I realize that I don’t quite know what I want yet. I want more time to be alone and understand myself better, understand what love means, because that is ultimately what I want for myself.
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