LADIES! Women! Girls! I am the bearer of great news: Aging is “awesome.”
Even better, it’s one of the sexiest and most underrated things since sliced bread.
It’s true that sliced bread doesn’t seem particularly sexy on the surface but, as if we needed to be reminded, TV and radio presenter Anita Rani says that at 46, she’s never felt “ better, sexier, stronger and more excited about the future” than she is now.
She feels empowered as she gets older and can do what she wants.
In short, as she told The Sun on Sunday’s Fabulous magazine, she is awakening.
Of course, what’s most attractive isn’t the physical beauty that radiates from her, it’s her inner beauty and strength that makes her so incredibly sexy and that’s the heart of her sass. her newfound giddiness and confidence.
And surely there’s nothing sexier than a woman who knows what she wants?
It is this – and it is mainly this – that is so seductive, so erotic, so stimulating. It radiates and exudes beauty and appeal.
I’ve lost count of the number of men who have told me they find older women more attractive.
It’s not about me, really.
For them, it’s the prospect of being with a woman who has found herself, who is capable of courage and independence.
That is the experience, the life experience that old age brings.
For generations, we have believed that aging is the final and literal nail in a woman’s coffin.
Society has perpetuated the mantra that only young women can be sexy and beautiful.
I will not go quietly
We look to youth for allure and temptation and in doing so, we completely overlook those of us who are wronged in our 40s.
For too long we have been considered unattractive, unattractive and certainly less attractive.
In fact, for generations, those of us over 50 have not even been seen because the uncomfortable truth is that women “of a certain age” have always been left out and ignored.
As soon as we fulfilled our purpose in life (which was always supposed to have children), we were thrown into the garbage or forced to wash our faces purple, wear beige macs, and blend into the background of life. living.
And if you don’t have children, you’re considered abandoned.
You cannot win.
But not anymore.
Overall, we are now changing the narrative around aging and are finally starting to reap the many benefits that come with it.
We’re finding our voices, we’re strutting our stuff, we’re showing off our bodies.
And all because we have realized that we are still alive and kicking.
As I’ve said countless times before, I’m not ready to quietly enter old age.
This may not be suitable for some people.
Many people want women to age gracefully, with dignity and without upsetting the status quo.
But most of us are discovering that there is still life in the old birds and we are determined to squeeze every drop of mischief, provocation and excitement out of life that we can.
Mainly because we made a lot of money.
Like Anita, you don’t have to have children to feel liberated by the prospect of suddenly finding yourself in a more mature and independent setting with age.
It is clear that she believes she is blooming.
Her 14-year marriage had come to a natural end and she now felt liberated by the thought that everyone knew she was single.
For many women, that change happens because they realize they want something else in life or, better yet, they want more.
You don’t have to endure giving birth and raising children to gain experience.
In fact, women who choose not to have children probably understand their thoughts in a more proactive and evolved way, because they are ready to challenge the world’s expectations and societal norms.
I always knew I wanted children and I feel lucky that I was able to make it happen.
But I can’t deny that there was a very strong feeling throughout my thirties and forties that once I was past childbearing age, I might somehow lose my purpose in life.
However, turning 40 is something I temporarily enjoy. I think it’s great to be 40 years old.
On the outside, I’m not old enough to be considered past that age, but on the inside, I’ve got a few more years of knowledge and practice that will help me a lot.
Then the onslaught of menopause turned my mind and body upside down.
I almost felt like life as I knew it was over.
But the best thing about that statement is that it really is true. It’s like a layer of skin peeling off, an awakening and most definitely an upgrade.
While fighting hard against the effects of menopause, at age 56, I decided I felt sexier than ever.
It’s easy to say but it’s really the truth. The “sexiness” I’m talking about doesn’t come from a LBD, sexy lingerie, heavy makeup, or a new trendy hairstyle.
It comes from deep inside. It comes from admitting that I now truly know what I want out of life – it’s not something blurred by the boundaries of demanding children or an incompetent partner or even is the desire to please others.
No, it comes from understanding that I don’t have time for BS in my life anymore.
If it comes close to me, I’ll brush it off because, honestly, this time it’s about me.
So it’s no surprise that I had a sexual revolution in what could be considered the “autumn” of my life – the fifties.
Not only do I feel sexier, more desirable and more desirable, but I can also take action because I have freed myself from the chains of marriage and its gripers.
I’m not suggesting you break up your marriage or ignore your kids, but there’s something liberating about building a life that’s all about you, where you play a central role.
And while I wouldn’t dream of comparing myself to any other woman on the planet, I know I’m not alone in discovering sexiness at 50.
Just enjoy your mince pies with J-Lo, Heidi Klum, Jennifer Aniston, Halle Berry or my absolute sweetheart, Sandra Bullock.
They all have it in buckets full.
I know they’re blessed with a ton of assistants, nutritionists, and PTs, but that’s not the reason they’re so ravishingly hot.
It comes from accepting the aging process, acknowledging their bodies for what they have become, and understanding that their attractiveness is deeper, more real, more substantial, and more interesting than when they were in their twenties.
Of course, we don’t care much about how men age.
We accept that they are capable of developing dad bodies and salt-and-pepper hair.
We even agree that they get grumpy and that they need to go through a midlife crisis, more often than not involving fast cars and young women.
We are less accepting of women’s aging.
The old adage that, like fine wine, we women get better with age, is truly true, because we find our true selves and embark on a new journey.
That journey is about confidence and assertiveness, which turns into charm and attraction.
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And let me tell you, it’s the biggest aphrodisiac out there.
If I could bottle it, it would put Viagra out of business faster than you can talk about sex appeal.